When I look back on my life, I see a few pivotal turning points that have lead me to where I am today. This is especially true when it comes to the reconciliation of my marriage. When I left my wife I was completeley defeated and had no intentions of returning.
After leaving, however, my alcoholism soon found lower bottoms, and I chose to reach out for help. When I entered recovery, the last thing I cared about saving was my marriage. I was just trying to save my sanity and my life.
But sometimes you get more than your bargain for. One night, while meeting with a group of others in recovery I had a conversation with a stranger that changed the course of my life.
After the meeting as I was walking to my truck someone called my name. I turned around. I had seen this man in our meeting, but didnt recognize him. I could tell he was not a local, and more than likely was just traveling through.
He asked if I was going through a divorce.
He said that he could tell that I was, by what I had shared in the meeting.
"I can relate," he said.
He began to tell me his story...
He was divorced himself, but not by his doing. His wife had left him and filed for divorce over five years ago. But he wasn't giving up. He planned to wait for his wife, no matter how long she took. Even if she remarried and never came back, he was committed to holding up his end of their marriage vows.
"I made a sacred covenent with my wife and God and I'm going to stick it out no matter what. When you follow Jesus no matter the cost, then you truly have on your big boy spiritual pants. Thats what faith is."
The idea seemed crazy, at first. But the more we talked the more I realized that he wasn't crazy. He wasn't a desperate codependent spouse.
He was simply a man trying to live out his faith. He was a man living out his wedding vows: For better or worse, until death do us part.
I was hearing commitment and faith on a level than I had never heard. I was inspired. I wanted that type of faith. So I made a decision that night to seek God's will for my life, no matter what.
I didn't return to my marriage right away. It was a long an arduous process to pray for, and recieve that willingness. But this man's testimony had set the wheels in motion.
Fast forward two years to now...
The marriage that I was convinced was permanantly broken, has been fixed. We also welcomed a beautiful baby girl into our family last year. We now happily chase this rambunxious toddler around the house.
I cant imagine not living the life I'm living today. Thank God for that man, and his story. Thank God he was traveling through that city on that day at that time, and I was there too. What are the odds? Coincidence? Maybe, maybe not.
He may never be able to reconcile his marriage, but his struggles and sorrow are not in vain. They helped save my marriage.